Monday, February 11, 2008

Go.. Get a Red Valentine !!

You have finally fallen in love. There are just two little problems - you have no idea whether the person in question reciprocates your feelings and you don't know how to make him/her do so, either. Make it Happen is a mantra that will help you cross these hurdles.
Tips for Women in Love
Attire
Dress for the occasion. Find a balance between dressing too casual that will make it seem as if you are disinterested in the date, and too provocative that will make it seem as if you are trying too hard.
Make up
Looking good is one of the first steps to attracting anyone's attention. But, it is highly recommended that cosmetic beauty be reserved for occasions like a party or an exclusive restaurant. On a normal day, excessive make up is a complete no-no.
Be Independent
It is but natural to get carried away when men are at their chivalrous best. It never hurts though, to offer to pay for the coffee once in a while. Men respect women who are independent and have a mind of their own.
Body Language
Body language is the most essential part of getting someone thinking about you. An occasional glance, a smile and a friendly demeanour, in general, will give him the confidence to approach you.
Intelligent Conversations
Outward beauty may attract a man for the moment, but it takes more than that to sustain his attention. Most men appreciate a woman with whom they can relate to and with whom they can share a lively conversation. So, an interest in current affairs and topics other than the usual girls' favourites will get you a long way.
Appreciation
People have a tendency to feel insecure if their efforts go unappreciated over time. So, if you notice that the guy in question has missed his usual football game on TV just to meet you or has taken care of you while you were ill, make sure you let him know that you appreciate his efforts with a gift or a timely thank you.
Beyond Looks
Looking beyond a person's physical appearance is a sure way of knowing that you will never miss out on what could have been a wonderful relationship but was lost just because of personal prejudices.
Tips for Men in Love
Assertive vs. Aggressive
There is a thin line between being assertive and being aggressive. Women prefer confident, assertive men versus bullies with an intimidating attitude. Politeness, respect for others and dealing with panache in heated situations are traits that a woman notices in a man.
Modesty
You might own a Ferrari or wear a Rolex but if you cannot stop bragging about them or about your achievements in every conversation, maybe then its time to adjust the attitude a little.
Research vs. Stalking
There is a difference between doing some research about the girl you are in love with and stalking her. It is always good to know something about the girl, like her family background or her hobbies but what needs to be sternly avoided is stalking her by following her around everywhere, giving her blank calls or calling her repeatedly. It is important to give the other person enough personal space to bring in the comfort factor.
Right Moves
The woman in question could be the most beautiful creature one has ever set eyes on, yet it would be considered extremely rude to stare at her. Be a perfect gentleman and avoid staring at her bare shoulders or low neckline. Watch out for her behaviour. If you do not sense the vibes you expect to receive, it is better not to push it. Patience pays.
Appearance
One of the biggest turn offs is body odour. A fresh and neat look not only makes you feel good but also tells a lady that you value the time you spend with her and have taken the effort to be at your best.
Chivalry
Chivalry may sound conservative but it never goes out of style. Women still love men who don't feel shy to show them some old fashioned chivalry like opening the door for them or pulling out a chair for them. Here are a few pointers to get you a head start;
  • Be punctual if you have offered to meet her somewhere or are picking her up
  • Ask her if she minds before you light up your cigarette
  • Open the door for her; be it the car or the restaurant
  • Allow her first, whether you're getting into a seating row at a theatre or when you are in a queue
  • Lead the way while crossing the road
  • Pull out the chair for her at the table
  • Sit only after the lady has taken her seat and rise when she does so
  • Make the move to pay the bill, but if she insists, back off
  • Remember important days like anniversaries and birthdays
Follow these pointers and one never knows, it might lead you to the beginning of a great relationship.

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